Be Kind to Twilight Years

To those of us who are now in our twilight years, this is a worthwhile read. It has a very meaningful and profound message from the famous Chinese novelist Yang Jiang (杨绛) wrote the following at age of 103. She lived a tranquil and reclusive life in her twilight years. The eminent Chinese author, playwright, and translator passed away at age 105 on May 2016.

Seasons after seasons, we are unknowingly approaching our twilight years.

From the first cry on coming to earth till the hair turns grey, the baggage of our journey through life is filled with bitterness and sweetness as well as ups and downs.

How far we walk on the path of our twilight years will depend on our physical, mental and spiritual condition.

Life's glory and splendor are behind us and we are now just going through the daily chores of keeping life going.

Once we yearned for a glamorous life, now we realize the most wonderful and romantic scenery in life are moments of tranquility.

Do not anxiously expect visits from our children. They have their own lives to live; they are like tops being spun continuously, sandwiched between young and old. Old is dusk, young is dawn. We are all concerned and have high expectations for the young: this is nature's law. It is a human race survival cycle and no one can defy it.

Please remember: our children are always more busy than us.

In life, whether it is husband and wife or parents and children, no matter how harmonious and how close they are, each one is unique and an independent entity.

Therefore, we need to learn to cope with loneliness by finding ways to console and cheer ourselves up when feeling lonely.

In reaching our golden age, we have our self esteem and graciousness just like the cycle of four seasons, each has its grace and beauty. Smile ​and​ enjoy each phase of life.

Twilight years is the beginning of goodness in life. It is easy going, peaceful, unhurried and joyful. We have to maintain peace, expect less, be more inclusive and forgiving, do not over react when receiving attention or when we are ignored. To stay or to go does not matter anymore. Keep smiling while moving ahead each day and be kind to ourselves. Being honest and sincere will make friendships last. Do not expect a return on what you have given to others. After all, making others happy is life's greatest achievement.